“Cutting cords doesn’t mean, “I don’t love you or care about you anymore.” Cord cutting doesn’t necessarily lead to break-ups or abandoned relationships. It simply means that you are releasing the dysfunctional parts of your relationships. Remember, fear is the opposite of love, and etheric cords (and all attachments) are created from fear”. Doreen Virtue
Positive and Negative Cords
Cords are a method of high speed communication and sharing energy. Healthy cords create a nurturing sharing of information and energy. Unhealthy cords can be a huge drain or a means of control. They are attached by mutual agreement, but there are lots of ways to persuade, trick, or con people into being corded. Often they were useful, but outlive their usefulness. The cord may have been very important when you were 2 years old, but now in adulthood it is no longer useful, but the cord is still there.
Cords can be a temporary telepathic and energetic link between two persons. Usually, a cord doesn’t last long and dissipate within a few days or even hours. Cords aren’t necessarily bad however if you find yourself constantly thinking of someone in particular, you may form a cord that will drain you and make you feel bad for no reason.
Energy cords show themselves as that surge that you get when you connect with someone. It depends hugely on the person, the circumstances, and on your openness to the feeling. You can easily suppress feeling it with your own mind. I think it still happens, but you can shut down your awareness of it.
Etheric cords can form between people, objects, and situations where there is a fearful attachment, afraid to let go, scared to be alone, afraid to be without. These are invisible energy links. We normally cord to other people and also allow them to cord to us throughout the course of our everyday lives. Many of these cords are short lived and dissolve quickly. There are some however, normally the intensive, volatile, or the longer term relationships, that create cords and with a build-up of numerous energies and emotions, such as need, desire, love, anger, jealousy, envy etc. These cords can create problems in the form of aches and pains, depression, rage, exhaustion, burn-out etc.
Most people aren’t even aware of these energy cords, the few that are aware can only vaguely describe their experiences… and the smallest handful of people who actually have high sensitivity are reluctant to speak about it. There are also a multitude of frauds, phonies, gurus and religious zealots who use cording to attach to their followers to make money.
It is normal for parents to form cords with their babies, this is both a necessity and a positive thing, as these cords help parents communicate with and understand their baby’s needs. Healthy cords dissolve naturally over a period of time, as the child grows. Negative cords feed the energy and emotions of one person to another, both positive and negative, so you may be feeling particularly angry and not know why, you may also be feeling depressed for no apparent reason. Cords are normally formed on a subconscious level, through a person’s need for strength, manipulation, control.
If you have decided to move on from a relationship and you find it particularly difficult to “let-go” it may be that there are cords of attachment from the other person holding you back. A person going through a divorce may be feeding their anger, rage, stress, and jealousy to the other person and vice versa. Without realising it, parents feed these emotions to their children and partners, creating all sorts of problems for everyone.
If you have a cord attached to someone you love and that person is going through a major crisis, they may be draining energy from you. So you will feel drained without knowing why. In this case some healthy boundaries need to be created.
Is it safe to cut them?
I’ve discovered that just randomly cutting cords causes more harm than good. Any healing process requires a conscious awareness and respect for the fact that it is a process. It is better to work with the cords, and learn how to adapt and understand them. I believe we have choice about becoming attached by unhealthy cords if we are operating on an entirely conscious level. The first step you may need to take is to take a break from being around a person, given the intensity of the energy that flows between you. Sometimes these cords reach across time and space, so we have to so we have to work with them on all levels.
When we give power away to other people because our relationship with self is dysfunctional, we actually allow cords of energy to tie us to those people. You can cut the cords, but unless you resolve the underlying reason why you corded in the first place, the cords will keep coming back.
The following methods of Cord removal I teach preclude removing any healthy cords and offer opportunity to heal the underlying issues.
Gentle loving ways of Releasing the Cords
• One method for removing the energy cords is to imagine yourself sitting in a beautiful natural setting. Imagine a circle around you. The circle can be made of fine silken rope – literally a “cord”. Sit in it, feel yourself protected by it. Imagine a column of light coming from the heavens encircling you in high frequency pure light.
• Then imagine the people you want out of your life also sitting in a circle made of cord. The two circles are close to each other but not touching. Look at the other people from your circle and wave good bye! You are gently and peacefully allowing other people their space while affirming your own. Instead of cutting, you are transmuting the cords. Let their cords remain whole. Let yours remain whole. Just disentangle and detach. Stoke the fires of love and compassion. Say good bye with love and move on!
As life is lived, the process of sorting and disentangling is obviously much more complex and subtle. As you make the music of your life less dysfunctional, the people attracted to the dysfunctional part will fall off. Chords are better than cords.
Higher-Self work to Remove and Heal Cord Attachments
Connection to High self…
First do a Mediation to align the client (or yourself if doing the work on yourself) with their High self.
Bring in Highself of the person with whom you have an unhealthy attachment.
Have the client (or yourself, if doing the work on yourself) imagine and call in the presence of the high self of the person with whom they feel they have unhealthy cords connected to. Remind them that this is the person high self without all their fears, doubts and control issues. Have them imagine the person as their whole, light filled loving self. If they have difficulty just tell them to imagine it.
Speaking from the heart…
Once they feel the presence of the person, have them begin to tell the person how they feel about the past. Tell them to speak from their heart, telling the person about how they have hurt them and how they have suffered because of their relationship. They can do this silently if they are not comfortable speaking it out loud. Encourage them to get everything off their chest. And then once that is completed have them tell the person what it is that they need from them now.
Now it is time for the high self of the other person to speak. Remind them that they are safe. This is the persons loving, true self, without fear or anger. Tell them that they are speaking from their heart now and telling them all the things they have needed to say. Ask them to listen now with an open heart and be willing to receive what they are being told. (It may be telepathic or come in as a feeling ) Encourage them to receive the information however it comes in. Have them ask the person what they need now.
Remind them that is they asked for forgiveness that forgiveness is not condoning it is making the decision not to carry it any longer.
Are you willing?
Now ask your client (or yourself if doing the work on yourself) if they are willing and ready to help this person with what it is that they need. It is okay if they are not willing to do anything for the other person. Ask them what they are willing to do for themselves.
Pruning the Garden.
Once this process feels complete I ask the client to call in a high spiritual being to assist them.
Tell them, “Look at the space between you and this person. There you will see attachments some will be healthy and light filled some will be unhealthy looking like the old dead branches on bushes and trees. Now ask your spirit guide to give you a tool to prune away all the dead and unhealthy looking connections. As you trim away these attachments your guide heals the places where they were cut away with healing light. You may help them select the prefect colour of light to do this work with. Continue cutting way the unhealthy attachments until only the healthy light filled connections remain. Your guide will take the old cords and offer them to Mother Earth to be transmuted into new life. If the person you are doing this work with wants to help you… allow them to be part of the process. Once the pruning is complete and all the old connecting points are sealed with light. You now are free to end this relationship or continue it on a basis that is healthy for both of you. Thank the high self of the person you are working with and say good bye allowing them to return to whatever they were doing. Thank your high self and your guide and come back into waking consciousness”
Removing a cord is a three step process:
1.unplugging the cord
2. disposing of the cord
3. cleansing and healing the anchor point / attachment point.
Some practitioners advocate cutting or removing all cords. Some attachments simply should not be removed because they are as yet too deeply engaged with our energy systems. Additionally, cord cutting can result in shocking both your energy system and that of the person on the other end, creating a host of unwanted sensations, feelings, and emotions. Cord pulling, is safer, more effective, measurably gentler, and longer lasting. Cord pulling does not shock the system of either party, and allows the practitioner to more effectively heal and seal the connection points.
Although similar to cord cutting, cord pulling requires coming from a very compassionate perspective from both practitioner and client. It requires practice, using tempered skill adequately, repeatedly and with continued success.
In cord work, there is more than the practitioner and the client involved – there are others at the opposite end of each cord and they too must be taken cared for.
Pulling cords doesn’t necessarily lead to break-ups or abandoned relationships, unless that is what you are seeking. Cord pulling will help you move forward with confidence and clarity since it releases the dysfunctional parts of your relationships. Fear is the opposite of love, and all attachments are created from fear.
If there are negative energy cords attached. Ask how many, if the number is large, begin with the most prominent. Begin pulling the cords one at a time. Handle them lovingly and then connect them to the positive energy of crystalline Earth grid. Repeat the process and continue pulling cords one by one and connect them immediately to the positive energy of crystalline Earth grid or dispose of them by placing them into a violet flame.
Next use high frequency spiritual light to heal the areas where the cords were attached and create a beautiful shield around each chakra to prevent further attachments.
Keeping yourself Clear with the Violet Flame
The Violet Flame works by raising vibrations. Vibration can be understood to be the speed at which electrons orbit around the nucleus of an atom. The empty space between the nucleus and the electrons is where negative energy can become stuck. When the atoms in our bodies or our auras become clogged with this negativity, the electrons move slower and slower…we have a lower vibration and are less connected to our true spiritual nature.
The Violet Flame transmutes negative energy by turning it into light which causes us to vibrate to a higher energy pattern, releasing more spiritual energy into our bodies. The Violet Flame is a tool of self-transformation. It has the unique ability to transform fear into courage, anxiety into peace and hatred into love. It re-establishes harmony and balance.
The Violet Flame is a Divine gift and tool for everyone, given to us by Ascended Master Saint Germaine. It is a sacred fire that exists on the Higher Dimensions.
The Violet Flame is Spiritual Alchemy in action, transmuting denser feelings, actions, deeds, thoughts and karma. The Violet flame helps prepare us for our Ascension, which means becoming a Divine Human, also known as a Christed Being – This level of Consciousness obtainable by any person who strives to embody their spiritual self fully within their physical self. You may use the Violet Flame in perfect harmony with any belief system, religion or practice. There are absolutely no conditions attached to it.
You can memorize an invocation or use the words and feelings from your own heart.
There are unlimited ways to use the Violet Flame. This is the basic method Saint Germaine offers to use as a foundation for Violet Flame work. It is very simple with only four steps. Once you understand the principles behind this practice, you can adapt it and use it in unlimited ways.
Step 1. Bring the Violet Flame into your body. Ask your Higher Self, a Master, Guide or Angel to assist you or just ask the flame to “be made manifest”. Do your best to visualize it. It doesn’t matter if you can actually see it.
Step 2. Imagine the flame spinning around your body. Bring it inside your body and through your heart chakra. The flame fills your emotional, mental and spiritual bodies.
Step 3. Ask the Violet Flame to transmute everything you wish to be changed or eliminated from your life. You can say “transmute anything and everything standing in the way of my fully embodied God/Goddess self.”
Step 4. Use the flame to change negativity into Divine Light and fill your body.
The Violet Flame Invocations below turn everything into the golden light of the Christ Consciousness.
The following are two simple invocations which will transmute negative thoughts, actions and emotions. You can individualize the Invocation using words from your heart. Say them with feeling and intention.
Saying the words out loud is best because the power and vibration of the spoken word has energy, which helps create the maximum results of the Violet Flame. If you are with people who might be uncomfortable with the spoken word, you can just say it quietly in your mind.
Center yourself. Take a few deep breaths to prepare. Then say these words:
I AM a being of Violet Fire
I AM the purity God desires
(repeat 3 times)
Beloved I AM presence bright
Round Me seal your tube of light
From Ascended masters flame
Called forth now in God’s own name
Let it keep my temple free
From all discord sent to me
I AM calling forth violet fire
To transmute all desire
Keeping on in freedoms name
Till I AM one with violet flame
(repeat 3 times)