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WAYS TO BE A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

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On a spiritual path, some of us are often confronted by difficult experiences which seek to awaken the warrior spirit within us. A peaceful warrior who stands up for a cause which affects more than oneself and acts from a place of awareness of the true self. According to the Random House Dictionary, the term “warrior” has two meanings. The first refers to “a man engaged or experienced in warfare.” The second refers to “a person who shows or has shown great vigor, courage, or aggressiveness, as in politics or athletics.” The term “warrior” is often associated with images of power, confidence, accomplishment, integrity, chivalry, honor and integrity.

Given the darker, survival driven side of human nature, it has and still is common practice for some individuals, tribes, cultures, corporations and nations to use raiding, theft, looting and plunder as a means of gaining wealth, power or even survival. It is also intrinsically true that those from whom they take do not give voluntarily. Thus, some cultures have a warrior class that act as raiders while others have a warrior class that acts as defenders or protectors. In fact, the warrior class often serves both roles, sort of like taking turns. It may, in some cases, even become a sport of sorts even developing an ad-hoc set of rules. Regardless, the strongest and boldest warriors are generally admired and enjoy an assortment of privileges within their own group.

In our culture we think of medieval knights as generally being honorable and noble (except for the black knight, of course). The truth is somewhat less romantic.

“We have ravaged women, burned houses, slain children, exacted ransom from everyone, eaten their cows, oxen, sheep, stolen their geese, pigs, capons, drunk their wines, violated churches……..For God’s sake, let us march on the pagans!” — Bertrand Du Guesclin- Legendary Fourteenth Century Knight

Regardless of the moral or political correctness of a warrior; all warriors have a few basic things in common:

They are disciplined, both internally and externally. Without discipline, they could not stay alive long enough to call themselves a warrior.

They develop mental focus. No one can develop essential skills of dealing with life, protecting one’s self or facing a foreboding opponent with an unfocused mind.

They develop an attitude of persistence. They have to face difficulty, pain, discomfort, discouragement, fear and the prospect of failure and utter doom without quitting. All struggle and conflict is settled in the mind before it reaches a physical resolution. If their resolve wavers, failure and defeat are certain.

They train. Imagine that you found yourself in a gunfight and to your surprise, the clips in your gear don’t fit your gun. Do you say, “Uh.. Excuse me! .. Uh.. Can we have a time out? I brought the wrong bullets!” Or, imagine that you are facing a warrior with steel in his eyes and his sword coming your way. Do you pause and think, “Uh.. let’s see … which hand do I hold the sword in … and … uh … which end of the shield is up?” If you don’t train, you don’t develop the skills that you need to survive … and you die!

All of these traits apply to the Spiritual warrior as well … and for the same reason.There is a difference between a warrior and a soldier. A soldier is trained to follow orders, to respect authority, and to subjugate their individual thinking process and will to the command hierarchy. A warrior, in contrast, is more autonomous and independent. A warrior engages in battle out of personal choice rather than because of obedience to orders. A warrior is capable of making moral judgments and acting accordingly. A warrior is flexible and adaptable; able to act independently as well as be a team player. A warrior takes responsibility for his or her choices and actions. A warrior is a person of compassion who understands pain and the consequences of action. A warrior understands the horror of war and does not seek it. A warrior understands that glory is only for fools who bask in their own illusions. A warrior, however, when engaged in a righteous cause, fights with such skill, passion, intensity, and brilliance that victory is assured.

Victory and defeat are a matter of Spirit more than of body. One is never defeated as long as his Spirit is not defeated or broken. When a warrior falls in battle without surrendering or giving up, his Spirit grows stronger. When a warrior survives the battle without surrendering or giving up, his Spirit grows stronger. Of course, most warriors prefer surviving.

War is a terrible wasteful folly in which there are no true winners. War brings out the best and worst in all of the players. The only ones who can be said to be winners are those who have strengthened their Spirits by overcoming adversity through will, sacrifice, and self awareness. Those who find courage in the face of extreme danger can be said to be winners. Those who face impossible situations and survive through the supreme application of will, keen focus, and Divine inspiration can be said to be winners.

Many are damaged by trauma. They lose parts of themselves by compromising their principles and morals or by facing situations too terrible to be acceptable or through fear. War is very messy and often morally ambiguous. The winners and the damaged often turn out to be the same people. A few rare individuals, through training, accomplishment and enlightenment develop the inner strength to face danger and horror without becoming damaged, cynical or crazy. These few have earned the right to be called warriors.

The term “Spiritual warrior” has been used in a variety of contexts and has been adopted by a variety of individuals who may not share a common understanding of the term. In general, a “Spiritual warrior” is someone who embraces the more noble personal attributes and strengths associated with warriors in general. In general, a “Spiritual warrior” is someone who masters him or herself, and overcomes personal desire, moral issues, and all weaknesses of character. In general, a “Spiritual warrior” is someone who embraces a journey of self discovery in order to benefit others as well as enlighten him or herself.

Some martial arts traditions maintain a system of ethics and honor and pursue a path of self mastery. Others emphasize combat, competition and fighting. Being a fighter does not make one a Spiritual warrior.

Some military organizations have a creed of honor and service as their core guiding principles. In the fog of actual warfare these may become lost, ignored or forgotten. Being a soldier does not make one a Spiritual warrior.

Being a Spiritual warrior has nothing to do with physical battle, making war, fighting or being mean and tough. The battle of the Spiritual warrior is the mastery of one’s self.

Being a “Spiritual warrior” means a life commitment. It means the embrace of discipline, study and long intense training sometimes at the sacrifice of comfort and convenience. Being a Spiritual warrior also means understanding your principles and not compromising them. It is easier said than done.

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                                                           Awareness of the Spiritual Warrior

The first and most vital tool of the spiritual warrior is awareness. It is easy to we think we are aware, but pure awareness has no thinking involved. It has no thinking because it has no interpretation. Awareness is to perceive with clarity the truth of what is happening without interpretation or opinion. In a moment of awareness the dialogue in the mind stops. We are “seeing” from a point or view separate from the reasoning part of our mind. This could be described as an epiphany. Practiced seer’s live in this awareness in every moment.

Awareness is essential because it is the state of consciousness that allows us to discern between the facts and the Truth, and between the story and the lies in our mind. The realm of our mind is filled with false perceptions and false beliefs. While the mind can be very clever with stories and lies, it is the consciousness of awareness that is the discerning intelligence. We may use very intelligent reasoning to make a decision that is not good for ourselves. Only to look at it in hindsight and realize that we discounted indicators that told us otherwise. This can be done in something as simple as a stock investment. The mind is clever, but it is also full of assumptions and limited paradigms of perception. Conscious awareness allows us to see clearly instead of be blinded by these false belief paradigms.

Self awareness is the clarity to know who and what you are, and not get caught up in self important images of ourselves. These self important images in our mind distort our sense of who we are. False images can lead us to low self esteem and self confidence, or they can take us into being self centered. If you have an idea of who you are, then consider that you are not that idea in your mind. You are the one creating the idea, and observing it. Self awareness that you are not any of those images in your mind is essential to becoming free of self importance.

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                                                       Courage of the Spiritual Warrior

The courage that makes for a good soldier also makes for a good Spiritual Warrior, but the intent becomes completely different. A soldier has courage to face a challenge that may bring physical harm. The Spiritual warrior has the courage to question challenge his or her own beliefs. By challenging our own beliefs we can dissolve the lies that cause our suffering. To challenge our own beliefs requires courage because it means the end of our illusion of safety. When other people challenge our own beliefs we are usually quick to defend. We defend them even if they cause us to suffer. As a warrior we learn not to defend what we believe, and then to challenge those very beliefs ourselves. In this way we are able to sort out the truth from illusions.

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                                                          Discipline of the Spiritual Warrior

A soldier has discipline to follow orders and continues on when faced with challenges. The Spiritual Warrior’s discipline to continue on with their path when faced with challenges from their mind. It is easier to follow orders as a soldier, because we are threatened with consequences and rewarded to motivate us. This is in line with our years of conditioning. A warrior must have the discipline to practice deal with their own mind without someone else providing the motivation with carrots or sticks. A warrior must exercise their own will at the command of their heart, not an outside authority figure. This often means going against the fearful opinions in our mind that tempt us with illusions of punishment and rewards. We must also have the discipline to follow our own heart even when tempted by another person’s opinion. This way of living requires disciplined practice.

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                                                      The Love of the Spiritual Warrior

A soldier has a commitment to love his/her country. The Spiritual warrior must have the commitment to love him/her self. The warrior then extends that love to humanity. The commitment is required because in our journey we will certainly fumble and fall many times. It is in having a strong commitment that we get back up again. It is common to fall to judgment. It can be easy to love some people, particularly the people that like us or treat us well. However, it requires a tremendous commitment to love in the face of those that reject us. This commitment will cause us to challenge our beliefs about our judgments and not being compassionate. We must be committed to love beyond our own self-serving interests of what it will bring us. This is how we will become happy beyond our current paradigm of beliefs. In time we become committed to love for the sheer enjoyment of expressing love. This becomes our commitment. We nourish ourselves with the love we express. A warrior acts in this committed way, even when challenged.

Only as a [spiritual] warrior can one withstand the path of knowledge. A warrior cannot complain or regret anything. His life is an endless challenge and challenges cannot possibly be good or bad. Challenges are simply challenges. The basic difference between an ordinary man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge, while an ordinary man takes everything as a blessing or a curse.” – Don Juan

http://www.psychedelicadventure.net/search?q=spiritual+warrior

SACRED ART FROM DANIEL MARTIN DIAZ

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“Over the past few years, I have become immersed in scientific and philosophical concepts, such as Anatomy, Computer Science, Math, Cosmology, Biology, Quantum Physics, and Consciousness. I have been particularly fascinated with scientific diagrams, which explain theories and properties through imagery. Although these rudimentary images are without any leanings towards aesthetics, I find them to be beautiful, though that is not the intention. All of the projects I have created begin as drawings, which I feel has a beauty and intimacy that painting cannot capture. The subtle lines that graphite creates, and the quickness in which one can capture an idea makes this medium alluring.”

Los Angeles Times – the work of artist Daniel Martin Diaz “…. is broodingly personal” with “…a compelling, esoteric edge.”

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5 REASONS TO ALWAYS BELIEVE THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

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“I trust that everything happens for a reason, even if we are not wise enough to see it. When there is no struggle, there is no strength.” Oprah Winfrey

The well-known Greek Philosopher Aristotle, believed that everything happens for a reason, always. And that every experience in your life, was designed to shape you and reform you into the ultimate and greatest version, that could ever imagine yourself to be. The only thing that prevents this, is having the wisdom to see it.

1. In Times of Struggle

Every negative experience; every time of struggle, can then be viewed as an opportunity for tremendous growth. Alike to a caterpillar burrowing from its chrysalis. When all of its forming and changing is complete, its metamorphism has transformed it into a magnificent butterfly. It has shed its former skin, and flown on the wings of new life and a new way of being.

2. In Times of Healing

Some may find it hard to believe that everything happens for a reason, especially when experiencing grief or loss. At the time it may be very difficult to see the blessing in it, as all that is being felt is pain. But it is through our lowest points in life, where we gain the wisdom and allow for new-found strength to emerge. Without loss we wouldn’t appreciate  gain, without grief we wouldn’t appreciate love. Without death, we wouldn’t appreciate life and without fear, we wouldn’t appreciate love.

3. In Times of Happiness

By far, the most victorious of all happen stances, when it all comes together in one moment, the AHA moment, as the metaphorical photo finally develops. When we reach the point, after all of the struggles, the self-substantiating realization beams through and we finally see the wisdom behind the subconscious choices we’ve made. Clarity shines through like the morning sun peeking out on the earths horizon.

4. In Times of Chaos

True chaos, cannot be chaos for as long as there is choice involved. Things may appear to be random, but as we all know appearances lie.

 “To someone who can’t read, letters on a page appear to be randomly chose when in reality they are precisely ordered.”- Deepak Chopra

Meaningful coincidences and synchronicities may also be viewed as random events with no connection, yet to the eye of the beholder, those events would have a real purpose and meaning.

5. In Times of Reflection

We see the pieces of the puzzle begin to come together, each unfolding a beautiful picture. The pain, the turmoil, the struggles and the victories, each essential building blocks to the molding of who we are today in this present moment.

An unfinished product, always growing, learning and experiencing. And by reflection we see, why it had to happen the way it did.

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life”- Steve Jobs

http://thespiritscience.net/2015/10/17/5-reasons-to-always-believe-that-everything-happens-for-a-reason/

5 WAYS TO HAVE A RIDICULOUSLY AMAZING LIFE- Richelle Morgan

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I used to dream, wish and hope for an amazing life—not just an okay life, but a ridiculously amazing life.

When I was younger, that dream had me rolling in style, of course, with fabulous clothes, a big house and a fast car.

As I grew older and wiser, the material wants and needs of my dreams changed—I simply wanted to be inspired and excited to get out of bed.

But that wasn’t happening…I was living within a shell of myself.

Sleep, wake, crawl out of bed, work, eat, sleep and repeat. And repeat. And repeat again. Snooze alert.

I found myself caught in a vortex of boredom with my dreams of a different life on hold. I was stuck. Not unhappy, just stuck, like a pot of overcooked pasta, heavy, uninspired and pasty.

That heaviness was not only settling on my ass, it was finding its way into my heart. And, all I wanted to do was sleep. And eat. And then sleep some more.

The problem was that this wasn’t the first time I experienced this; it was not a new story I was creating where I could put the blame on all the supporting characters. This was my own fault; I had built a decently successful business, had wonderful clients, friends, family and all that fun stuff. I was living in suburbia heaven with a nice car, good home and it was killing me.

Slowly and surely, I was dying inside.

I had worked myself into exhaustion and the stress I put on myself to succeed gifted me with a lovely autoimmune disorder—which was ironic, considering my business was teaching others how to create healthy lifestyles.

I was unmotivated, uninspired and unfulfilled; a walking, talking empty shell. Like a pretty puppet, I moved, acted, responded, but if you had taken the time to knock on my shell, you would have heard a resounding echoing emptiness inside.

So what did I do?

I woke up, took a hard look at my life and told myself to snap out of it. I made the decision to step back into my life, to take the bull by the horns and take charge of myself. No more excuses. No more blame.

It was time to start living from the heart…and it was then that my life started to become a bit more amazing.

It was then that I started to become a bit more amazing.

And, yes, it was that simple. The decision, that is.

I realized that the only way out of my spiraling vortex of un-fulfillment was through me. In order to create the life I dreamed of, I had to be the one to change. I couldn’t blame anyone for my choices, my dissatisfaction or my growing ass. I had to turn the mirror around and face myself.

And at first I peeked, not wanting to face myself. But, as time went on and I did the work needed, that mirror started to shine and reflect a happier me. And now, I can proudly say that I have fully and completely stepped into my life. And I try to do at least one thing to make my life ridiculously amazing each and every day.

Five ways to step into your life and make it ridiculously amazing:

1. Move.

As in, move, breathe and sweat.

You can’t be ridiculously amazing burrowing a hole into your couch or glued to your computer screen. (I know this because I tried. Massive fail! And what makes matters worse, that decently successful business I ran was a fitness business. How sad is that? I was inspiring others to move but couldn’t get myself on board!)

You have to get up and get your ass moving! Get the blood flowing, muscles fired up and the energy levels inspired. And the million excuses you have will come up, shelf them. If you can walk to the fridge, you can move.

I’m not asking you to hop off the couch and run a marathon, go for a walk, dance, do yoga, something. Just move. While you’re at it, move on to number two.

2. Check in and take notice.

One thing that is consistent is that life is continuously changing—and it will pass you by in the blink of an eye if you don’t take notice of it.

Start by checking in and paying attention to the little things that happen on a daily basis. I take the same route everyday to teach and each time I notice something different; it didn’t used to be that way. I used to drive mindlessly to client’s homes or to appointments and find myself 10 km down the highway with no recollection of what just passed me by. I had created a cozy vacuum of numbness that had me periodically checking out of life.

Now, I pay attention. I check in and stay present. Even when I’m doing something I do everyday, it’s become a mini adventure. I’ve noticed that anything can and will happen, but it’s up to me to take notice. So open your eyes, ears and mind. Rediscover your senses.

When you pause and actually notice the little things, what you see might surprise you.

3. Love.

Sweet, juicy, love.

Get the love juice flowing for your friends, family, partner and pets. Basically, anyone or thing that shares your space. Try to sweeten the pot with some unconditional love. Pets, easy. People; maybe not so much so try to practice first and foremost on yourself. Drown yourself in a giant pot of love juice. Be kind and nourishing to yourself in deliciously healthy ways because when we start to treat ourselves as though we are worthy, we set amazing things in motion.

After all, we can’t tap into love if we don’t love ourselves first.

4. Play.

Remember that four letter word?

If you don’t, seek out a niece, nephew, your child or a friend’s child. Watch, listen and learn. Life has enough serious moments without us purposely adding to the mix.

It’s okay to let loose and let your inner child come out and play once in a while. Be silly, dance, sing and laugh a lot. Don’t let anyone dampen your silliness. I did that and it wasn’t fun.

Now I play, a lot, everyday, with my crazy dogs, in the beautiful sea, on my yoga mat and with my boyfriend. They nourish my quirky side and allow me to be me. Which makes me smile a lot.

As a bonus, they’re helping me develop gorgeous laugh lines… much prettier than the frown lines I was working on before.

5. Leap outside your comfort zone.

Don’t think. Get like Nike and just do it! Leap, jump or dive into something that takes you outside your comfort zone, something that scares you a little or a lot.

I did this when I first arrived in Tulum. Shy, deathly afraid of house parties, I became a bit of a hermit back home. Once my shell started to crack open, I forced myself to do things that took me way outside my comfort zone.

The end result was I became more social, less afraid to attend parties or events solo. And it was so extraordinarily freeing, terrifying at times, but once the sweat stopped pouring, I noticed that I was not alone. And no matter what the outcome, I embraced every experience as an opportunity to spread my wings and grow.

Amazing things happen when we open the door to life and let our senses explore. When you step outside your comfort zone and try new things, visit new places, create new adventures, you give back to yourself ten fold. Embrace what comes up when you take a chance on life.

The good with the bad because it will help you grow as a friend, lover, mother or father.

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Take charge of your life.

If you’re unsatisfied, do something—your life won’t change unless you create the change.

So get things moving, go dance in the rain, kiss your partner deeply, try a new taste, take the road less travelled, open your eyes and drink in the sights.

There’s beauty to be found in simplicity.

Make the choice to step up to the bat and hit a ridiculously amazing home run in this fabulously messy thing we call life.

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2013/05/5-ways-to-have-a-ridiculously-amazing-life-richelle-morgan/

Tao Leadership

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“The best leaders are those the people hardly know exist,” said Lao Tzu

Indeed, a good leader is ‘nowhere to be found’.  He’s invisible!

Most leaders we know are visible. Among them are laudable leader who is adored and respected by his people, and chieftain who asserts his authority by making people aware that he is the BOSS. Sadly, they also include the bully who points a knife at your back forcing you to empty your wallet.

These leaders get you to do things they want you to do. But if you’re talking about effectiveness of leadership, theirs is in nowhere near the influence of the ‘invisible’ leaders.

The ‘invisible’ leaders lead without ‘leading’ in the conventional sense.

Like what Lao Tzu says, “They act without effort and teach without words.”

They inspire and guide, so that people do what he wants them to do without feeling being led.

We have heard of highly accomplished people talking about how someone however insignificant had led them to their success. The person can be a mother with little education who lavishes her children with wisdom and love, or a stern master who pokes his student’s bloated ego so that he can see clearly his true value in his pursuits. The person drives successes without appearing to be a leader, although he is the real leader.

The real leaders can also be someone as simple as your friend who makes you travel all the way to a remote place to try out an interesting restaurant, or take part in a program to shed your weight without telling you to do so.

Having said that, there is no doubt that a true leader can be someone in leadership position, who is both visible and invisible, depending on the situations.

So who are these leaders in your life?

There are many of them around. Since they are invisible, they are in no fixed form. In fact, this is the beauty of it. They are there for you to discover and be enthralled.

Once you have spotted any one of them, take note of how they have led you. Apply the secrets to the people you lead, and you will see the invisible leader emerging in you.

According to Lao Tzu,

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“The best leaders are those the people hardly know exist.
The next best is a leader who is loved and praised.
Next comes the one who is feared.
The worst one is the leader that is despised.

If you don’t trust the people,
they will become untrustworthy.

The best leaders value their words, and use them sparingly.
When she has accomplished her task,
the people say, “Amazing:
we did it, all by ourselves!”
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Leaders with such tao leadership style are hard to come by.

In the book Chuang Tzu, there is a fable on horse training. Let’s see if this trainer is a good leader.

How do you think a horse should behave?

Horses have hooves to saunter over frost and snow and hair to protect them from wind and cold. They eat grass and drink water, and fling up their tails and gallop.

This is the real nature of horses!

One day, there came a horse trainer, Bole, who claimed he was great at handling horses.

But what did he do to the horses! He singed and clipped the horses’ hair. He pared their hooves, and branded them body. He tied them up by their necks, and shackled them by their legs, while numbering them for their stables.

As a result, two or three in every ten horses died!

He made the horses go hungry and thirsty, trotted them and galloped them, and got them to run in formations. He threatened the horses with the tasseled bridle at the front; and whip of terror behind.

More than half of the horses died.

Was Bole a good leader?

Even if he was, his success was at the expense of the horses tortured to death. You would not regard him to be the best of leaders.

The flaws of Pole’s leadership in the fable are obvious. There are however many leaders around us behaving just like him. These leaders intervene and control too much. They push and bulldoze. They look innocuous, and often work hard. But they are stifling, rather than leading their people.


The Effective Tao Leader

“I have heard my master say that nurturing life is like keeping a flock of sheep,” says Chuang Tzu in his book. “You lash the last sheep, and the rest will move.”

The leadership style is effective and effortless.

It is so different from bulldozing. It is Tao leadership.

You hold a whip in your hand, but you are kind to the flock. You lash only when it is absolutely necessary, and only on the last sheep – one that makes the whole flock move.

Instead of pushing, you work on the nature of the flock. Although the flock is totally under your control, it follows without knowing that you exist.

The challenge, of course, is on knowing where the last sheep is. To know the last sheep, you’ll need to do the following::

1. Clarity of mind

Effective dao leadership requires clarity of mind. If you are not sure about where you want to go, rather than leading, you are confusing your people.

2. Simplicity

Clarity of mind begets simplicity. As a Tao leader, you cut off the noises, make a clear decision, and the people follow.

3. Balance & Yinyang

As a good leader, you are remarkably resilient. Like water, you are able to regain your balance in no time, even during turmoil.

4. Stoop Low

Rivers and seas are more powerful than streams, but they would not have been powerful without the water from streams. To receive water from streams, however, rivers and seas stoop low. Leaders with Tao leadership are like rivers and seas. They derive their power from the people, and to do so, they are ready to stoop low.

5. Letting go

When you are sure you have done the necessary or what you can, stand back. Do not interfere. Let the people do their works; and nature takes its course.

http://tao-in-you.com/tao-leadership.html

HEALTHY SEXUALITY WITH AYURVEDA

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HOW can a couple enhance their sexual relationship by following Vasthu Sastra?

This is a question frequently asked by many readers who want to know how can they use the ancient knowledge to improve their bond.

Vasthu Sastra (science of dwelling), Kamasutra (art of sensuous love) and Ayurveda (science of life) are inter-connected and any couple observing all the three sciences can achieve total wellness. It is vital for readers to understand how these sciences work to ensure a happy union. In Vasthu, a couple who has sex in the south-west location of their house will enjoy the satisfactory pleasures and the chances of them being blessed with a healthy child is greater. Kamasutra, which incorporates yoga positions, is as old as the 5,000-year-old science of Vasthu. It highlights the marriage of the spiritual and the sensual, which stems from the Indian belief that the body is as sacred as the spirit. In Sanskrit, Kamasutra means sensuous love or an emotional feeling of attachment. When a couple is exploring Kamasutra poses, it should be performed after sunset in the correct location of a house to enjoy the desired result. 


To achieve the ultimate satisfaction, a couple is encouraged to follow the tips provided by Ayurveda.

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In Ayurveda, individuals who wish to enjoy the pleasures of the world should sleep on their left side, because this promotes the functioning of the right nostril, obstructing free flow through the left. The right nostril heats and activates the body, and increases an individual’s interest in food, sleep and sex.

This assists the individual to better externalize their personality to enable them to enjoy sensuousness. Sleeping on back allows both nostrils to function together, which discourages body, mind, and spirit integration and indirectly promotes disease by encouraging energy to leave the body. Sleeping on the stomach promotes diseases directly by obstructing deep and healthy breathing. It is best to sleep with the crown of your head facing east and your feet to the west. This promotes meditative sleep.

Sleeping with your head to the north draws energy out of the body,disturbing mind, body and spirit integration. If your head is to the south, energy is drawn into your body, improving your health. In short, sleeping on the left side is most relaxing, on the right most digestive, on your back, disturbing to the Vata (air) and sleeping and on your stomach is, disturbing to all of the above.

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Healthy sex

In Ayurveda, individuals who do not regulate their sexual impulses are more prone to loss of strength, a weak immune function and various diseases owing to the depletion of vitality.

According to ayurvedic expert Dr CD Siby from the Ayur Centre in Petaling Jaya, those who regulate their sexual energy will have increased memory, power, intelligence, health and longevity.

According to the ancient science, unsatisfied sexual urge is the cause of many diseases. Sexual frustration creates anger and this imbalances the female sex organ, blood flow and affects her menstruation. Menstrual disturbances heighten a women’s emotional aggravation.

It is difficult for such a woman to become pregnant, and should she become pregnant, her misery will be transferred to the child in her womb by the toxins circulating in her impure blood.

Any baby growing in such an environment will grow up unsatisfied and angry because emotions are the foundation of a child’s constitution. The foundation of sexual stress is often loss of Ojas, which is caused by over sexual indulgence. (Ojas is the purest expression of metabolism and the end product of correct digestion and assimilation of food).

Many modern couples fail to take time to enjoy sex and seek only self-gratification instead of mutual satisfaction. Masturbation is the culmination of this tendency, the apex of self-indulgence and an unwarranted waste of energy.

Repetitious unsatisfying sex is certain to cause disease. Individuals lose the willingness to surrender themselves to each other in sexual union when they feel vulnerable because of weak identities. Lack of Ojas, especially due to frequent obsessive sex, weakens the aura, and whenever anyone gets too close, subliminal alarm bells begin to go off.

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Sexual satisfaction

Sexual satisfaction occurs between two partners, not between two genital organs. It does not happen immediately but grows and develops over time. The first step in improving an individual’s sexual experience is to resist temptation to hop from bed to bed to seek improved pleasure. An individual must stick to one partner.

Vata (air) people are tempted by variety more than the other types. They should satisfy this craving for variation with new techniques and positions, not with new partners.

Pitta (fire) people also have roving eyes, but their principle urge is for intensity of experience and not variation. They have to be careful not to completely dominate a weaker partner, to permit their craving for intensity to mesmerize them into perversion.

Kapha (water) people are less likely to roam, and since sex is a good vigorous exercise for them, they can be encouraged to do it more often.

http://www.hiddenmysteries.org/spirit/ecstacy/happyinbed.shtml

Why Sleep Makes You Sexy, Slim & Youthful — And How To Get More Of It

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Sleep. We all know we need it, but with our 24-hour lifestyles, many people view sleep as a waste of time that could be better spent doing just about anything else.

Problem is, when you skimp on sleep you’re not only making yourself tired and compromising your ability to fight off everyday ills, you’re also speeding the aging process, driving weight gain, and increasing your risk for diabetes, obesity, and cardiovascular problems.

Get enough sleep, though, and you’re treating your body to the greatest body- and brain-boosting anti-aging treatment there is. So next time you think, Oh, I can get by on four hours, rethink your sleep strategy and set the alarm for a few hours later.

Lack of Sleep Makes You Fat

Undersleeping disrupts metabolism and hormonal balance in numerous ways, many of which reinforce each other. In fact, too few Zzz’s set the stage for problems far weightier than just yawning a lot – you’re creating the perfect conditions for fat accumulation!

Too little sleep triggers these hormonal fat-makers:

  • Too much cortisol — which cues your body to hold on to fat
  • Too much ghrelin — which causes you to get hungry: The higher the levels, the hungrier you’ll be.
  • Not enough glucagon — which is essential for fat-burning
  • Not enough leptin — which makes you feel full: Come up short and you wind up eating more.
  • Not enough human growth hormone (HGH) — which, when levels drop, makes your weight more likely to rise
  • Not enough adiponectin — which helps break down fat and promotes insulin sensitivity

Too Little Sleep Makes You Feel Older Faster

Lack of sleep is the fast track to feeling old before your time. Not getting enough quality sleep contributes to many of the pesky problems people write off as simply part of the aging process. We’re talking weight gain, slowed metabolism, memory issues, brain fog, weakened immunity, and low moods — feeling irritable, helpless, easily frustrated, anxious, and/or depressed.

The good news is often it’s not aging that’s the culprit; it’s a simple lack of sleep. To feel (and look) younger get a sound seven or eight hours a night, or as close to that as you can manage. Think of it as the cure for premature aging.

Not Enough Sleep Wrecks Your Health

Whether you know it or not, sleep is anything but unproductive — your brain and body are actually very active when you’re down for the count. They’re busy refreshing, repairing, and rejuvenating just about every cell in the body, so if you don’t make time for sleep, you’re disabling your body’s ability to recharge and heal itself. In fact, while you’re snoozing, your body is performing a number of essential tasks to keep you vibrant. Among the biggies:

  • Muscle repair: When you exercise, muscles break down, then they rebuild, growing larger and stronger — but only during sleep.
  • Brain chemistry balance: When you face a stressful challenge, your brain uses up supplies of key amino acids and other biochemicals that are restored when you sleep. That’s why you need more sleep, not less, when you are working extra hard.
  • Removal of toxic waste from the brain: A part of our body known as “the glymphatic system” is responsible for clearing toxins from the brain — and it’s only active during sleep.
  • Immune support: A library full of studies links lack of sleep to chronic disease, but, on a more immediate level, you’ve probably noticed that when you’ve got too much going on and get run down, you’ll often catch a cold.
  • Pain relief: If you skimp on sleep, your pain threshold tends to drop, so it’s essential to give your parasympathetic nervous system time to let your body rest, digest — and heal.
  • Memory boosts: Having senior moments or memory lapses? A lack of sleep could be to blame. Sleep is when you consolidate your memories — which means that without sleep your brain has a harder time processing, storing, and, ultimately, retrieving information.

In a nutshell, good, restful sleep keeps you vigorous, energized, and at a healthy weight — so get some of the good stuff tonight! Need to brush up on your sleeping skills?

Here are a few pointers:

  • Darken your room with blackout curtains and/or get a sleep mask.
  • Turn off all electronic devices two hours before bed.
  • Stop caffeinated beverages completely, and avoid chocolate after 8 p.m.
  • We sleep best in cool rooms and warm beds, so if you’re having trouble sleeping, open the window or put on the AC, and get cozy under a blanket.

For 10 more tips on how to improve your sleeping skills tonight, check out my easy-to-follow, step-by-step sleep solution program — and enjoy all the benefits that good sleep can bring. Happy snoozing.

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-22083/why-sleep-makes-you-sexy-slim-youthful-and-how-to-get-more-of-it.html

10 Effective Hair Masks To Treat Hair Loss

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Preventing hair loss is a major concern for most women across the world. There are so many natural treatments that you can follow to bid farewell to this issue. The only problem is that not all of us have enough time to visit the parlour and use one of these treatments. We understand you have a busy schedule, but ignoring the hair is certainly not going to solve the problem. An effective and smart way to prevent and stop hair loss permanently is by trying homemade hair masks. The best part is that you don’t have to travel far away to find the ingredients. They are all available in your kitchen. Trust me!

Eggs could always be used to prevent hair loss.

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1. You will require one hard egg, a cup of milk, two tablespoons of lemon juice and olive oil.

2. Mix them together and massage well all over the scalp region.
3. Cover your head with a shower cap and let it stay for the next 20 minutes.
4. Wash it off with cold water.Love eating bananas? Now you can use it for your hair!

1. All you require for the banana mask for hair loss is two ripe bananas, a tablespoon of olive oil, coconut oil and honey.
2. Add them together in a bowl and blend with the help of a spoon.
3. Now, apply this over your hair as well as the scalp region.
4. Let it settle down for about five minutes.
5. Wash off with lukewarm water.

3. Yogurt Mask:

Yogurt offers an inexpensive and effective deep conditioning for your hair.

1. To prepare the yogurt mask, you will need a cup of yogurt, a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar and a tablespoon of honey.
2. Mix these ingredients well and apply the mask from the roots to the tips.
3. Let it stay for 15 minutes, after which you can wash it with cold water.

4. Avocado Mask:

Apply Avocado mask once or twice a week to improve texture and sheen of your hair.

1. Get hold of a small avocado that is green and ripe, half a cup of milk and a tablespoon of olive and almond oil.
2. Blend them together until you find any lumps.
3. Apply from the roots to the tips of the hair.
4. Let it stay for 15 minutes and wash with cold water.

5. Strawberry Mask:

Stop hair fall within two washes with the help of a strawberry mask.

1. A couple of fresh strawberries, some amount of coconut oil and honey should be mixed together in a bowl.
2. Now, apply this prepared mask from the scalp to the ends of your hair.
3. Use cold water to rinse it off after 20 minutes.

6. Curry Leaves And Coconut Mask:

This hair mask for hair loss can do wonders on your hair.

1. Grab some fresh curry leaves and a few tablespoons of coconut oil from your kitchen.
2. Boil them for a couple of minutes and use the residue to massage all over your hair.
3. Rinse well after 20 minutes.
4. Use this mask twice a week.

7. Castor Oil And Brandy:

Who knows castor oil and brandy could do wonders for your hair? Yes, they do.

1. You require two tablespoons of castor oil with another two tablespoons of brandy and an egg.
2. Prepare a mixture of the above ingredients.
3. Massage the scalp with the mixture and apply all over the hair too.
4. Let it stay for a while and then you may rinse with cold water.

8. Rosemary Mask:

Do you know rosemary strengthens hair follicles and helps to combat hair loss?

1. Take a few tablespoons of well-chopped rosemary.
2. Boil them in water for a couple of minutes.
3. When the mixture gets cool, massage it all over the scalp.
4. Let it stay for 15 minutes and then wash it off with lukewarm water.

9. Green Tea Mask:

Green tea stimulates hair growth. It is one of the perfect remedy for those suffering from thinning hair.

1. Take one egg yolk and take two tablespoons of green tea that has recently been prepared.
2. Mix them till you see a creamy texture.
3. Apply with the help of a brush all over the scalp and hair.
4. Let it stay for 15 to 20 minutes.
5. Wash if off with cold water before you shampoo your hair.

10. Vitamin E Capsule Mask:

Protect hair with this strengthening and repairing hair damage remedy.

1. A combination of almond oil, castor oil, coconut oil, lavender oil and crushed Vitamin E capsules can be stored in a bottle.
2. Apply this mixture all over the hair and scalp thrice a week.
3. Let it stay overnight and wash off the next morning with cold water.

These are some of the effective and natural hair masks for hair loss that you can use to make your hair beautiful and healthy. Have you tried preparing any hair masks at home other than these? Do not forget to share them with us.

http://www.stylecraze.com/articles/effective-hair-masks-to-treat-hair-loss/

A FLAWLESS EXPLANATION ON THE MEANING OF LIFE

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can recall so often hearing questions around the meaning of life.

I have to remind myself that there was a time when I didn’t know.

In all areas of my spiritual evolution, there was a time that I was too far from the truth to see it. When the understanding comes, or returns, it’s so penetrating that you forget that you were once lost. This concept itself is a huge part of the meaning of life: remembering.

Life is suffering.

As has been so often pointed out by my teachers: you suffer over what you want and you suffer over what you don’t want. When we get what we want, we suffer when it changes—which is inevitable. When we don’t get what we want, we suffer due to our craving. When we get what we don’t want, we suffer due to our aversion to what is.

All of this suffering stems from our relationship to what is occurring in our lives. We create the suffering because we attach ourselves to externals that are guaranteed to change.

My previous article touched on the absurdity in our practice of creating our identities out of externals that are, by nature, impermanent. Nature has seasons: life and death. And everything on this plane of existence is subject to the laws of nature.

We choose to sign up for suffering when we cling to what must—by nature—change.

The meaning of life is in dancing with this suffering. We cannot avoid it, so we must learn to engage with it in a manner that evolves us as beings. Only in the human existence do we get the privilege to consciously work through these episodes of suffering.

And yes, it is a privilege.

Every bit of suffering that comes (or that we create) in our lives, is there for a reason. We are to work with it. And how well we work with it determines the meaning of this life.

There is no external puppet master determining what the meaning of our lives is; we are the creators. We design our own heaven or hell based on how well we dance with our suffering. If we teach ourselves to dance with suffering with the grace of love and compassion, we create heaven. If we choose instead to dance with the darkness of fear and anger, we create hell. These are not places we are sent to based on the accumulated behaviors of this lifetime, these are places we create within every second of every day.

The meaning and purpose of life is love.

We are to spend our human existence learning how to better love ourselves, and then to love others (as ourselves). While this may sound like a romantic notion, it is exponentially greater than romance could ever be. It is not a sappy, surface-level concept, it is truth. This realm of love is not tied to the humanization of the term, as God is not what our limited minds have conjured. They are one-in-the-same. You want to get to God? Learn to love. You want to learn to love? Be God.

We’ve been given the music of love to dance to, we only have to get quiet enough to hear it. We know all the steps, we simply have to look deep enough inside to remember them.

The meaning of life isn’t something we must find, we are already it.

We must experience the body for what it is-an accumulation of sensory perceptions and a mind that has created an ego-concept that it is separate. This body and mind are not who we are. We are love. And the meaning of life is to find our way back to love, to God, to ourselves

Find Happiness By Giving Up These 15 Things

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Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:

“Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”
Wayne Dyer 

What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big

2. Give up your need for control

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.”
Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame

Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.”
Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.”
Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining

Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change

Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”
Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels

Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.

“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”
Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.