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DIVINE UNIVERSE

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I want to live in this world that artist Mariano Peccinetti has created out of pure creativity. A world where people realize that there is nothing more perfect then nature. No decor or material, designing all the decor around the universe and nature.

Find more of Mariano Peccinetti’s work on his blog and if you would like to support this artist you can buy his work in different forms on this link

society 6 an artist collective finding creative ways so that the work can still have a life and a use. Beauty is magical because it makes people happy!

I hope you all enjoyed and have a lovely day.

Love love love

Melika Emira Baccouche

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9 Essential Oils + How To Use Them For Clear, Radiant Skin

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Essential oils are highly potent, steam-distilled plant extracts. Though completely natural, they must be handled and used with care.

Essential oils are used medicinally by aromatherapists. Like any medicine, these natural chemicals can be harmful if used improperly. It’s important to research any essential oil before using it in your routine. You’ll need to determine its recommended dilution, and check to see if the oil has any restrictions for use. Certain essential oils can be disruptive to medical conditions like pregnancy, high blood pressure, or epilepsy.

As a rule, any essential oil you are working with should be diluted to around 1–3% for use in skin care. That means that the oil needs to be blended with a carrier oil to be used directly, or used in very small proportions in recipes and formulations.

It’s important to note that essential oils should be used with extreme care on children and babies. Kids and babies can’t process the chemicals in essential oils as easily as adults. If you’re, I recommend consulting a doctor or aromatherapist before using or handling any essential oils.

While there are thousands of essential oils available, I tend to lean on a handful of favorites. Choose one or two that suit your skin type, and invest in small bottles of high quality oil.

The ultimate oil for mature skin care, rose essential oil is treasured for its ability to help soothe and soften. Rose essential oil is soothing to all skin types, and is an excellent addition to any of your most precious facial recipes.

Geranium essential oil makes a great alternative to rose essential oil and is far less expensive. It can still help balance skin pH, fight fine lines and wrinkles, and benefit facial recipes. Though any variety of geranium essential oil will do, my personal favorites are rose geranium and geranium bourbon.

Neroli essential oil is another great choice for facial care. Like rose essential oil and geranium essential oil, it helps to balance skin’s moisture. Which of the three you choose mostly depends on budget and personal preference.

Personally, I adore the smell of neroli essential oil. It is made from orange blossoms, giving it a delightfully sweet and floral scent.

Roman chamomile essential oil is very effective at soothing itchy, red skin. It also has a calming effect emotionally, which as far as side effects go, is not too shabby.

 

Another great essential oil for soothing inflamed skin, yarrow is also slightly astringent, making it a good choice for oily or combination skin.

 

Helichrysum essential oil is expensive, but a worthwhile investment for those fighting acne. It not only possesses potent antibacterial and antifungal properties, it can help reduce scarring. Helichrysum essential oil’s restorative properties also make it a good choice for mature skin.

 

Niaouli essential oil is a close relative to tea tree essential oil, an ingredient commonly used to combat acne. While both boast potent antibacterial properties and are excellent for acne-prone and combination skin, niaouli essential oil is more gentle on the nervous system and overall health. I recommend using niaouli essential oil in place of tea tree essential oil in recipes.

 

I use peppermint essential oil in almost all of my lip balm recipes. The hint of cooling mint will make your lips tingle. That stimulating feeling can also benefit tired muscles in your feet, legs, and hands.

A word to the wise though: a little peppermint essential oil goes a long way, so go easy with this particular essential oil. By the way, do not use peppermint essential oil with babies or toddlers.

 

Rosemary is a popular essential oil in haircare recipes because it encourages a healthy balance of oils in the scalp. It is believed to discourage dandruff, soothe inflammation, and may even stimulate hair growth.

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-22268/9-essential-oils-how-to-use-them-for-clear-radiant-skin.html

20 Frida Kahlo Quotes to Touch the Core of Your Being

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Born Magdalena Carmen Frieda Kahlo y Calderón, she became one of Mexico’s greatest painters.

Kahlo contracted polio at the age of 6, had an almost deadly accident at the age of 18 and went on to marry Diego Rivera, the muralist and ultimate womanizer.

People who are close to me know the immense place that Frida holds in my heart and in my life. For me, she represents the pain every woman on earth is going through—be it physical, or emotional. Frida has proved to us how strong we can be and how much we can endure.

I empathize with the pain she went through. She suffered from the pain of infidelity. Diego, her comrade, her best friend and the first critic of her art, was never her husband or ‘hers’–-as Frida says. He belonged to many women and mostly he belonged to himself only. This—in return—sent Frida through endless, dire suffering that only the pages of her diary witnessed.

When it comes to art, I am fond of many artists. But never before have I witnessed emotions and thoughts expressed so bluntly and poignantly on a canvas. Not only does Kahlo’s art fascinate me, but also her words. Reading what she said, we can sense the intensity of her agony, yet, at the same time, the greatness of her hope.

Having said that, we can say that Frida is an icon of patience, endurance and strength:

“Feet, what do I need you for when I have wings to fly?”

“There have been two great accidents in my life. One was the trolley, and the other was Diego. Diego was by far the worst.”

“I paint self-portraits because I am so often alone, because I am the person I know best.”

“I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me, too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you.”

“You didn’t understand what I am. I am love. I am pleasure. I am essence. I am an idiot. I am alcoholic. I am tenacious. I am. I simply am. You are a sh*t my love.”

“They thought I was a Surrealist, but I wasn’t. I never painted dreams. I paint my own reality.”

“Nothing is absolute. Everything changes, everything moves, everything revolves, everything flies and goes away.”

“I drank because I wanted to drown my sorrows, but now the damned things have learned to swim.”

“I am not sick. I am broken. But I am happy to be alive as long as I can paint.”

“I think that little by little I’ll be able to solve my problems and survive.”

“At the end of the day, we can endure much more than we think we can.”

“I love you more than my own skin.”

“How can I call him my Diego? He never was and never will be mine, he only belongs to himself.”

“Nothing is worth more than laughter. It is strength to laugh and to abandon oneself, to be light.”

“Take a lover who looks at you like maybe you are magic.” ~ Marty McConnel (about Frida Kahlo)

“The only thing I know is that I paint because I need to, and I paint whatever passes through my head without any other consideration.”

“I cannot speak of Diego as my husband because that term, when applied to him, is an absurdity. He never has been, nor will he ever be, anybody’s husband.”

“I leave you my portrait so that you will have my presence all the days and nights that I am away from you.”

“I want to be inside your darkest everything.”

“I hope the exit is joyful and I hope never to return.”

“… and I hope never to return.”  Written on the last pages of her diary, Frida bluntly affirms she has no intentions of reincarnating in another lifetime. Her pain was too great to want to experience physical life again. She physically left Diego, her lovers and her friends. But up until today, Frida is still here. She lives in every painting of hers, in every portrait hung on the wall. She lives in the spirit of every woman who is going through miscarriage, physical pain and emotional difficulties.

Frida gives us the hope that we will overcome any calamity we might face. She tells us to laugh, to love hard, to survive no matter what. Frida shows us the importance of drinking tequila, lighting a cigarette and living as if we are dying tomorrow.

Frida kahlo, a woman, an icon, forever in our hearts.

Viva La Frida!

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/12/20-frida-kahlo-quotes-to-touch-the-core-of-your-being/

The Guy Who Built A Golden Pyramid House

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I’ve watched this documentary and not only is it only scientifically interesting. It is funny, radically kitchy and inspirational.

It just shows that anything in life is possible if you have focus, perseverance and a vision. Rome was not built in a day. Our time on this earth is short, let’s try to create the unthinkable, the unimaginable and manifest our hearts desires!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7VvZVmO39uo

SACRED ART FROM DANIEL MARTIN DIAZ

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“Over the past few years, I have become immersed in scientific and philosophical concepts, such as Anatomy, Computer Science, Math, Cosmology, Biology, Quantum Physics, and Consciousness. I have been particularly fascinated with scientific diagrams, which explain theories and properties through imagery. Although these rudimentary images are without any leanings towards aesthetics, I find them to be beautiful, though that is not the intention. All of the projects I have created begin as drawings, which I feel has a beauty and intimacy that painting cannot capture. The subtle lines that graphite creates, and the quickness in which one can capture an idea makes this medium alluring.”

Los Angeles Times – the work of artist Daniel Martin Diaz “…. is broodingly personal” with “…a compelling, esoteric edge.”

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HEALTHY SEXUALITY WITH AYURVEDA

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HOW can a couple enhance their sexual relationship by following Vasthu Sastra?

This is a question frequently asked by many readers who want to know how can they use the ancient knowledge to improve their bond.

Vasthu Sastra (science of dwelling), Kamasutra (art of sensuous love) and Ayurveda (science of life) are inter-connected and any couple observing all the three sciences can achieve total wellness. It is vital for readers to understand how these sciences work to ensure a happy union. In Vasthu, a couple who has sex in the south-west location of their house will enjoy the satisfactory pleasures and the chances of them being blessed with a healthy child is greater. Kamasutra, which incorporates yoga positions, is as old as the 5,000-year-old science of Vasthu. It highlights the marriage of the spiritual and the sensual, which stems from the Indian belief that the body is as sacred as the spirit. In Sanskrit, Kamasutra means sensuous love or an emotional feeling of attachment. When a couple is exploring Kamasutra poses, it should be performed after sunset in the correct location of a house to enjoy the desired result. 


To achieve the ultimate satisfaction, a couple is encouraged to follow the tips provided by Ayurveda.

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In Ayurveda, individuals who wish to enjoy the pleasures of the world should sleep on their left side, because this promotes the functioning of the right nostril, obstructing free flow through the left. The right nostril heats and activates the body, and increases an individual’s interest in food, sleep and sex.

This assists the individual to better externalize their personality to enable them to enjoy sensuousness. Sleeping on back allows both nostrils to function together, which discourages body, mind, and spirit integration and indirectly promotes disease by encouraging energy to leave the body. Sleeping on the stomach promotes diseases directly by obstructing deep and healthy breathing. It is best to sleep with the crown of your head facing east and your feet to the west. This promotes meditative sleep.

Sleeping with your head to the north draws energy out of the body,disturbing mind, body and spirit integration. If your head is to the south, energy is drawn into your body, improving your health. In short, sleeping on the left side is most relaxing, on the right most digestive, on your back, disturbing to the Vata (air) and sleeping and on your stomach is, disturbing to all of the above.

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Healthy sex

In Ayurveda, individuals who do not regulate their sexual impulses are more prone to loss of strength, a weak immune function and various diseases owing to the depletion of vitality.

According to ayurvedic expert Dr CD Siby from the Ayur Centre in Petaling Jaya, those who regulate their sexual energy will have increased memory, power, intelligence, health and longevity.

According to the ancient science, unsatisfied sexual urge is the cause of many diseases. Sexual frustration creates anger and this imbalances the female sex organ, blood flow and affects her menstruation. Menstrual disturbances heighten a women’s emotional aggravation.

It is difficult for such a woman to become pregnant, and should she become pregnant, her misery will be transferred to the child in her womb by the toxins circulating in her impure blood.

Any baby growing in such an environment will grow up unsatisfied and angry because emotions are the foundation of a child’s constitution. The foundation of sexual stress is often loss of Ojas, which is caused by over sexual indulgence. (Ojas is the purest expression of metabolism and the end product of correct digestion and assimilation of food).

Many modern couples fail to take time to enjoy sex and seek only self-gratification instead of mutual satisfaction. Masturbation is the culmination of this tendency, the apex of self-indulgence and an unwarranted waste of energy.

Repetitious unsatisfying sex is certain to cause disease. Individuals lose the willingness to surrender themselves to each other in sexual union when they feel vulnerable because of weak identities. Lack of Ojas, especially due to frequent obsessive sex, weakens the aura, and whenever anyone gets too close, subliminal alarm bells begin to go off.

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Sexual satisfaction

Sexual satisfaction occurs between two partners, not between two genital organs. It does not happen immediately but grows and develops over time. The first step in improving an individual’s sexual experience is to resist temptation to hop from bed to bed to seek improved pleasure. An individual must stick to one partner.

Vata (air) people are tempted by variety more than the other types. They should satisfy this craving for variation with new techniques and positions, not with new partners.

Pitta (fire) people also have roving eyes, but their principle urge is for intensity of experience and not variation. They have to be careful not to completely dominate a weaker partner, to permit their craving for intensity to mesmerize them into perversion.

Kapha (water) people are less likely to roam, and since sex is a good vigorous exercise for them, they can be encouraged to do it more often.

http://www.hiddenmysteries.org/spirit/ecstacy/happyinbed.shtml

7 Simple Ayurvedic Beauty Tips for Your Face

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Mother Nature has in its store some of the best solutions for all kinds of beauty-related issues. All we need to do is tap into nature’s immense potential to keep our skin beautiful all round the year as well as prevent premature ageing. Ayurveda, our very own science of medicine, hailing from ancient times, is a storehouse of a number of herbal remedies which can naturally enhance the beauty of our skin, preventing and doing away with several common skin concerns such as pimples, acne, spots, dark circles, scars, wrinkles etc. Although inexpensive, the effectiveness of Ayurvedic remedies is immense.

Let us look at some simple Ayurvedic beauty tips for face which can help you acquire naturally glowing, problem-free skin:

Ayurvedic Beauty Tips for Face:

To cleanse the skin and pores: Raw Milk

One of the known basic ayurvedic tips for face glow is using raw milk. Raw milk helps remove unseen dirt and impurities from the face as well as the pores of the skin. It also adds a subtle glow and acts as a natural moisturizer. Use raw milk with a cotton ball to gently cleanse your skin. You may even mix a little lemon juice with raw milk for this purpose.

To acquire a smooth complexion: Orange

Applying fresh orange juice to your face on a daily basis will help bring about an improvement in the texture of your skin as well as the skin tone. This fruit is rich in Vitamin C which enables our body to fight ageing and it also acts as a good skin toner, especially for oily skin.

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To control acne:

Pack 1: Sandalwood and turmeric

Make a paste using 1tsp each of sandalwood powder and turmeric with water. Apply on your face and leave it on for 15-20 minutes, followed by rinsing off with lukewarm water. Do this daily.

Pack 2: Aloe Vera

Aloe Vera is one of the wonders of Nature that has a number of skin and health benefits. Break open a leaf, take out the fresh gel, apply on your face and massage in. Once dry, wash off with lukewarm water. Aloe Vera cannot exactly cure acne but it has amazing anti-inflammatory properties, thus helping to reduce the swelling and redness of pimples and acne. Noticeable results can be seen in a week’s time. Moreover, drinking Aloe Vera juice can enhance the vitality of the skin and also be useful in case of stomach ailments.

To reduce pigmentation, blemishes and dark spots: Potato

Potato is a very good natural skin lightener and one of the best ayurvedic remedies for glowing face. Rub a slice of raw potato daily on your skin to lighten pigmentation, blemishes and dark spots. Alternatively, onion, lime or cucumber juice may be used for the same purpose.

To naturally moisturize skin to avoid wrinkles and fine lines:

Pack 1: Olive Oil

Olive oil is a wonderful natural moisturizer loaded with antioxidants and fatty acids. Smooth on a thin layer of it onto your skin before bed every night to rejuvenate your skin and prevent the formation of fine lines and wrinkles.

Pack 2: Honey

Honey, an excellent natural humectant (a substance that promotes retention of moisture), can help you get soft and supple skin. It is extremely useful for avoiding wrinkles, flakiness and dryness.

Ayurvedic beauty tips for face have been used since many centuries to get naturally beautiful skin. Therefore, you too can start today!

http://www.stylecraze.com/articles/5simple-ayurvedic-beauty-tips-for-your-face/

What is Spiritual Partnership?

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And How Does It Affect Relationship Communication?

According to Gary Zukov in Seat of the Soul, speaking of relationship communication,

“The archetype of marriage is no longer functional. It is being replaced with a new archetype that is designed to assist spiritual growth. This is the archetype of spiritual, or sacred, partnership.”

Interestingly, Scott Peck gave us almost exactly the same definition of love way back in 1977 in The Road Less Traveled. “Love,” said Peck, “is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.”

Until now, however, no one has spelled out exactly how Spiritual Partnership differs from the old models of marriage and love, or exactly how it works in every day life. Exactlyhow do I “nurture my own or another’s spiritual growth?” That is exactly the question I answer in my book, Why Talking is not Enough, and what I will summarize here.

Spiritual Partnership differs from the Old Model of relationships in two major ways:

  1. 1. Loving Actions replace relationship communication as the primary tool for problem solving and relationship enrichment.
  2. 2. In Spiritual Partnership, your focus shifts from your partner and from relationship communication to your own spiritual path.

How Spiritual Partnership Replaces Relationship “Communication”

Good relationship communication is great, if you already have it. But “communication” tends to focus on problems, on the weak parts of your relationship. And how often have you talked over a problem and felt worse afterwards?

In Spiritual Partnership, instead of focusing endlessly on relationship communication, we invite you to ask this question:

“If I were to behave in accord with my highest spiritual values right now, what would I do?”

The answer is NOT more and better relationship communication. The answer is, you find a loving action, an action that will both make you a more spiritually behaving person and make an impact on your relationship.

How Loving Actions Work

For example, one Loving Action is to “Act As If.” When you are angry, you can, as a deliberate spiritually-motivated experiment, choose to behave in a loving, rather than an angry way. When Robert was late for dinner without calling for the fourth time in a row, Cheryl was (justifiably, some might say) furious. But when he finally arrived, instead of assaulting him, or trying one of her relationship communication techniques, she greeted him with a kiss and you-must-be-exhausted-what-kept-you-so-late, and she handed him a glass of wine. They had a lovely evening together, and never discussed “the problem.” Her mood changed as they talked, and he felt her love and support. Cheryl voluntarily, as a spiritual act, gave up her claim to being “right” in this situation, and decided that harmony and love was a higher priority for her than trying to change Robert or getting him to admit he was inconsiderate.

We might think of Spiritual Partnership as “applied spirituality.” It is based on the simple idea that if you focus on behaving in a spiritual way yourself, rather than on fixing your relationship or your partner, then you, your partner, and your relationship will be both happier and stronger.

Beyond “Honey, We Need To Talk!”

Perhaps the best news about becoming a Spiritual Partner is that you can do it by yourself! If your partner is not oriented toward personal or spiritual growth, (and remember, he or she may have valid reasons for such an aversion), or if your partner always avoids relationship communication, it doesn’t matter! By voluntarily becoming the Loving Leader in your relationship, you can create astonishing changes that both of you will appreciate, and that will give you a feeling of inner strength and personal power and well-being, which are the ultimate goals of any spiritual practice!

A second piece of good news about Spiritual Partnership is that it does not require extra time. It is simply a new way of approaching what you are already doing. Never again will you have to “talk” about a problem and haul out your old relationship communication skills. Now your relationship communication can all be pleasant!

What Makes Something A “Loving, Or Spiritual Action?”

Each of the eight Loving Actions

  • is motivated by a desire for spiritual growth
  • is unilateral
  • requires discipline, an act of will
  • is experimental

In the book, I also take considerable time to define what I mean by “spiritual” (as a way of starting a dialogue on the subject.) To be spiritual, I submit, is to recognize your connection to the universe and to everyone and everything in it, and to strive each moment for the thoughts and actions that will increase and not decrease this connection. Your spiritual journey is your own personal journey

  • from isolation to connection
  • from your conditioned personality to your authentic self
  • from fear to love
  • from sleep to consciousness or awareness
  • from control to surrender
  • from restlessness to inner peace.

Each of the Eight Loving Actions gives you a concrete, easy-to-learn, way to put these values into action in your daily life. As you become a more seasoned Spiritual Partner, by practicing these simple actions, you will be furthering your own spiritual journey at the same time you will be giving your relationship a great gift.

The Eight Loving Actions

The Eight Loving Actions that move you completely beyond the Old Model of relationship communication skills are these:

  1. Adopt a Spirit of Good Will
  2. Give Up Problem-Solving
  3. Act As If
  4. Practice Restraint
  5. Balance Giving and Taking
  6. Act on Your Own
  7. Practice Acceptance
  8. Practice Compassion

How Spiritual Partnership Differs From The Old Model

The following statements are another way to see how Spiritual Partnership differs dramatically from the Old Model. These are meant to be read slowly, as a kind of meditation.

In the Old Model, you make progress by talking thing through together, using relationship communication skills.In Spiritual Partnership, you make progress by choosing spiritual actions–by yourself.

In the Old Model, your goal is to solve your problems.In Spiritual Partnership, the goal is to outgrow problems by achieving a new level of consciousness.

In the Old Model, the goal is to improve the relationship, to move from dysfunctional to functional, to thriving.In Spiritual Partnership, the goal is for each partner to grow spiritually.

In the Old Model, you solve problems by encouraging your partner to change.In Spiritual Partnership you encourage yourself to change.

In the Old Model, you rely on your mind. You figure things out, come up with strategies, look for solutions, stay in control; you create a lot of noise in your head.In Spiritual Partnership, you quiet the mind. You rely on inner wisdom from your body. You stop trying to figure things out and change them, and instead you pay attention to what is.

In the Old Model, you focus on the differences between you. You ask, “How can we fix what’s wrong?”In Spiritual Partnership, you look for commonality, oneness, unity. You ask, “How are we both part of the human experience? How are we the same?”

In the Old Model, your continuing search for improvement keeps you in a state of discontent; you believe you can do better.In Spiritual Partnership, the state of discontent is the problem. You begin with acceptance.

In the Old Model change is slow and incremental. Old habits die hard. Progress is gradual. Relationship communication skills require practice.In Spiritual Partnership, an inner shift may create “miraculous” change in one moment. You experience quantum leaps. “I was blind, but now I see.”

In the Old Model, there are limits on how happy two people can be together over many years.In Spiritual Partnership, the joy of connection is unlimited.

In the Old Model, relationships are hard work.In Spiritual Partnership, spiritual growth is hard work; relationships are a pleasure.

In the Old Model, you believe you have to be married to the right person.In Spiritual Partnership, you know that more important than having the right partner is being the right partner.

In the Old Model, if you want more from your partner, you must learn to ask for what you want, using your best relationship communication skills.In Spiritual Partnership, if you want more, give more.

In the Old Model, it is impossible to work on the relationship or make any progress unless both parties are willing to talk.In Spiritual Partnership, one partner on a spiritual journey can create significant changes in a relationship, by choosing unilateral spiritual actions, by offering spiritual leadership, often without saying a word.

In the Old Model, you approach problems by asking, “Who’s right and who’s wrong? Who needs to change?.”In Spiritual Partnership, being right doesn’t matter. You approach problems by asking, “No matter who is right, what can I do make a positive difference?”

The Five Principles of Spiritual Partnership

The five principles of Spiritual Partnership, which are presented in Why Talking is not Enough are:

  1. Use loving actions instead of communication when you come to an impasse.
  2. Never try to solve a problem by asking your partner to change.
  3. No matter who is “right” or “wrong,” exhibit a spirit of good will. Ask, “If I were going to behave in accord with my highest spiritual self, what would I do now?”
  4. Strive to keep in balance the times you stand up for your partner’s needs, and the times you stand up for yourself.
  5. Don’t discuss problems; don’t try to solve problems. It is an illusion to think that if you can solve your problems, you will be happy. Most problems don’t have a solution anyway; they are not problems, but facts of life. Instead of trying to solve your problems, do something to create a harmonious atmosphere in your relationship – right now.